Here are commons reasons why people getting married according to "Before you Tie the Knot" by Salma Abugideiri & Mohamed Hag Magid. People can have more than one reasons to get married.
Let's play a game. Each of you sort these reasons according to what relate to you the most to the least relatable. After both of you sort it, show them to each other. Discuss it togetehr
Protecting seeking physical enjoyment indeed one of reasons why marriage is one of Sunnah. It's the only Halal way to do so, and making it an act of worship.
Unfortunately some people make this as the only reason to get married. Islam has various objective in marriage (see Islamic Model on chapter 1), and using this as the only reason hardly fulfill the objective. The relationship may not have necessities for it to be enduring and healthy.
Seeking companionship is a good reason for marriage. This include sharing fun and good part, and also parcel and hard part of life. The quality of sakeenah (tranquility) comes when each person feel there a partner to relay upon during hard times.
Just be careful that:
Procreation is part of Shari'ah.
When marrying other poople, don't forget that your spouse will be the mother/father of your child. Don't forget to check whether she/he is suitable for the role.
Some people use this as the sole reason of marriage. Unfortunately, there will be time where the copule doesn't have child yet, and there will be time where they become independent. Some couple also have fertility issue. In those time, what would happen if this is the only reason for marriage.
Financial is one of stressor during marriage. It's important to be aware of each other financial situation (income, debt, obligation to parent/familiy, etc).
Financial security can be manifested in various form. Some people look for physicians or engineer as their spouse. Sometimes this has implict reason that they want to married financially secured person.
Be careful that only considering financial security will risk the marriage become unhappy.
Financial is one of stressor during marriage. It's important to be aware of each other financial situation (income, debt, obligation to parent/familiy, etc).
Financial security can be manifested in various form. Some people look for physicians or engineer as their spouse. Sometimes this has implict reason that they want to married financially secured person.
Be careful that only considering financial security will risk the marriage become unhappy.
Some people use marriage as escape from existing situation. For example, they wanto to escape from pressure of getting marriede given by their parents or relative
It's important to not only think in short term. You need to also think in term of long term
Some people express the intention of marriage, but they are not stable enough to enter marriage commitment. It's not realistic to seek stabilty from marriage, instead they need to be stable first.
Some people people choose to be single in younger life, have many partner for enjoyment, and then in their forties decide to settle down to someone who is still "pure" and never been in relationsip. This create double standard that problematic. The spouse my develop jelousy with previous partner.
Some people express the intention of marriage, but they are not stable enough to enter marriage commitment. It's not realistic to seek stabilty from marriage, instead they need to be stable first.
Some people people choose to be single in younger life, have many partner for enjoyment, and then in their forties decide to settle down to someone who is still "pure" and never been in relationsip. This create double standard that problematic. The spouse my develop jelousy with previous partner.